I caught up with up-and-coming porn-star Jared Erikson and asked him a few personal questions.
Can you remember the first time you jacked-off?
I discovered masturbation at a young age. I actually discovered it in an odd way — via a very strong water jet in the swimming pool in my back yard. The first time it hit my crotch it felt good, so with no one around I held my penis up to it and the pleasure stimulation was capped with this amazing warm rush I would come to know as orgasm. From there, I started experimenting with ways to play with my penis and stimulate it when I wasn’t in the pool. I was seven.
How did you feel when you first jacked off?
I had no idea what it all meant or what it was until the sex-ed stuff started around age 11 or 12. The sensations felt so good — the rush of dopamine, as I would learn later on — I always enjoyed my rock hard cock and the sensations it produced.
Happily, I never felt ashamed or guilty, but I attribute that to the fact I discovered it at an age well before masturbation is on the parental and social radar. All I knew was that it felt great and I wanted to feel it again and again.
When the social shaming about masturbation and sex hit around puberty, I already knew there was no way something that produced so much happiness and mood elevation could be bad, naughty, nasty, unnatural, or any of the other suppressive and negative adjectives attached to the act.
Did you talk about it with anyone?
I told my sister, since I had no idea what it all meant. Eventually, I was caught by my mom when I was in the pool. I don’t know how my parents felt about it because, being the good repressed protestant household we were, it was never really discussed with me beyond — ‘Don’t do that!’ in the moment of discovery and then never brought up again. I suspect I was watched really closely in the pool after that, though.
When I was 11, my mom gave me James Dobson’s book Preparing for Adolescence, which functionally explained a great deal of the puberty process. But like most Christian writers, his information was tainted with the negative view of any sex that didn’t occur with with your opposite-sex life-mate partner whom you would one day meet — a misguided and unnatural view in my experience that unfavourably colours their view of all things sexual and doesn’t bear out in the natural world.
I think that because I discovered this natural pleasure so young, when the falsehoods and party-line propaganda about masturbation and sex finally hit in my early teens, I took it for the idiocy that it is. Sex is dirty, naughty, and shameful, unless it’s with this one special person and then it magically transforms itself from dirty to an expression of pure love? Are you fucking kidding me? What intelligent person buys that? I kept right on masturbating.
Did you try any different techniques in those early years?
Initially, I didn’t need lube because I was in a swimming pool in south Florida with a jet of water providing the stimulation. From there, the masturbation was dry, with one hand around the base of my erection and the other using my fingertips rubbing back and forth on the underside of the shaft while my thumb tip braced against the top of the shaft.
The first time I came, it sprayed all over the palm of my hand, which was over the head of my cock.
From there, I discovered lube, and started using baby oil and Vaseline for the more traditional form of gripping and stroking the full shaft and head with my entire hand.
How has your jack-off style evolved over the years?
The biggest change came with my discovery of edging. I started out just wanting to hit orgasm, and frequently more than once or twice in a session. But with edging, I’d spend hours just getting near to orgasm and backing off and then ramping up again and backing off again — just to see how long I could last before just barely touching my erection would cause me to orgasm fully.
My first intercourse experience as a bottom was when I was still in my teens — that had me hooked on anal sex, so a lot of my energy went into jerking off while getting plowed. In my teens and early 20s, I often jerked off looking at porn magazines and reading the erotic fiction. This gave way to internet porn, riding big toys while I stroke, as well as mutual masturbation with some hook-ups, while others liked to play with my fat penis and jerk me off.
What’s your preferred way to jack-off currently?
My current favorite ways to masturbate involves using lube and stroking my erection while riding my big toys or, more often, having erotic conversations or cam play with guys on the internet.
What jack-off hints or tips would you give a young guy just starting to explore his sexuality?
My advice to guys is to always be open and try new techniques and new methods of stimulation. You’ll be surprised at the number of ways masturbation can be carried out to its inevitable satisfying conclusion. Then, do it again, and again.