I caught up with my Twitter-buddy MännerSpa and asked him a few personal questions.
Can you remember the first time you jacked-off?
I was nine years old. It was spontaneous, but I can’t re-call exactly how I discovered what would happen if you rubbed yourself.
I wasn’t taught by anyone, it was a completely natural action. But once that was discovered, and the revelation of orgasm and ejaculation were felt and experienced — I never turned back.
How did you feel when you first jacked off?
I loved the feeling. I quickly became a dedicated masturbator, and have been ever since. There was some guilt or fear of being caught — there was more of that in those days. For years I hid it from any parental discovery.
Did you talk about it with anyone?
Not until I was 11. For some reason got into a discussion with a class-mate. He revealed that he was masturbating, as were a large number of our other class-mates. In that discussion, I learned how others were doing it as opposed to my method. After that, we would get together and very quickly get into sessions.
Later in middle school years, my cousin and I had a revelatory discussion, got turned on and masturbated together — the first of a number of sessions we’d have through our teen and university years.
Did you try any different techniques in those early years?
I didn’t vary my technique for some time. It was an issue of concealment in those years. Lube came later. At the beginning it was always a dry approach — I’d use either a sock, underwear, or an undershirt as a cum-rag and then hide it under the bed.
The cum-rag would accumulate a huge number of loads, then another one would be initiated. Some time later one of the ‘rags’ was discovered when the bed was moved.
I also loved long sessions in the shower or tub. Looking back, I’m sure that my parents or at least my Dad must have known what I was up to in there. But I was very dedicated in concealing any evidence.
How has your jack-off style evolved over the years?
Widely — I’ve experimented a great deal over the years. I’ve tried just about any method you know of, could think of, or devise. That includes all manner of hand and grip configurations, pressure and stroke variations, positions, humping methods, lubricant types, and devices.
What’s your preferred way to jack-off currently?
I’m currently enjoying many of the mechanical, electrical, vibratory, and tech means and devices that are widely available — I try as many as I can get. Electro and vibrating are currently extremely enjoyable.
What jack-off hints or tips would you give a young guy just starting to explore his sexuality?
Masturbation is now way more ‘out of the closet’ than it was when many of us started. Compared to 15 or 20 years ago, it’s much more discussed, seen as normal, and accepted as a natural part of human sexual development and life.
During the AIDS crisis, masturbation was lauded as a form of safe-sex. That period saw the rise of what some term the ‘solosexual’ — an entire culture or subset constructed around masturbation, its glorification, and enhancement practices such as edging, group, and mutual. We saw the appearance of clubs and groups, as well as informational websites. Later, that evolved into internet-based means of connection and exposure to the act — platforms like BateWorld and Chaturbate.
As with all things sexual, there’s now just so much more — more information, more stimulation, more opportunities — it would be hard to imagine anyone finding out about it on their own as I did.
In terms of any hints or advice, I’d tell a young guy to enjoy it and experience it as a part of what makes you male — it’s a gift of nature. It’s a pleasure you can have your whole life.