Fancy some group fun?
Maybe it's time to get some buddies together.
There's something fairly unique about a sex party - when you get a group of guys together, they all get naked, and everyone gets aroused, you can feel the sexual energy in the room.
Let's get to grips with group sex.
What is Group Sex
As the name kind of suggests, group sex is a sexual encounter that simultaneously involves multiple people.
So, if it’s just you and one other guy – that’s not group sex.
If it’s you and two other guys, it’s a bit of a stretch to describe that as group sex – it would be more accurate to call that a threesome.
If it’s you and three other guys, you’re in the ballpark of group sex, but you’d generally describe that as a fourgy.
Once we get up to you and four other guys, or you and more than four other guys, then we’re safely in group sex territory.
You could also describe group sex as an orgy – the words are pretty much interchangeable.
Group sex isn’t exactly the same as a gangbang or a gang-fuck. A gang-fuck is where one guy is kind of the centre of attention and is being fucked by everyone else. In a group sex scenario, you’d generally expect everyone to be getting it on with everyone else – in various ass fucking combinations, as events unfold.
Where to Find Group Sex
Depending on where you live, it shouldn’t be too difficult to find some group sex action near you.
There’s probably four main options:
Bathhouses
Hitting up your local bathhouse, sauna, or sex-on-premises venue is one of the easiest options if you’re in the mood for some group sex.
You’re not always going to find group sex action at a bathhouse, and not everyone at a bathhouse will necessarily be up for an orgy. However, you’ve automatically got multiple guys in a venue, all up for fun, all naked and ready for action.
If you’re looking to initiate or get involved in some group sex action at a bathhouse, put yourself in situations where you’re in the same zone as other guys. The sauna or the steam-room is always a bit of a hot-spot, or hang out in the hot-tub for a bit. If there’s a room with some sofas where there’s porn on the screen, then that could also be a good place to get the party started.
Gay Personals
The rise of the gay hookup apps has been a bit of a game-changer for guys that are looking for group sex.
You can simply put in your profile what you’re looking for – whether that’s just a bit of gentle ass licking through to a 10-man gang-fuck or a 3-day orgy.
As well as updating your profile, actively message guys near you and see how many you can line up for a session.
Obviously, not everyone is going to be looking for the same thing, but there’s no harm in asking the question. You’ve got to be a bit proactive – a Google search on ‘gay sex parties near me’ isn’t going to deliver many results.
Local Homes/House Party
If you’re looking for group sex on hook-up apps, then it’s likely that you’ll end up with guys at your place or being invited over to someone else’s place.
The vibe of these house parties is obviously shaped by the host and the guys that are there. Generally, they’re fairly relaxed – everyone will be there to chill and kick back. There will be sex, there will be talking, there will be smoking, there will be more sex. No one is in a hurry.
The main thing at a house party is to respect the host. Don’t invite random guys to join you at someone’s place unless you’ve cleared it with the host first. If the host asks you to leave, then it’s time to go.
Sex Parties
If you’re a bit of an exhibitionist, then getting loose at a sex party is a lot of fun.
These will generally be organised, ticketed events at a club or designated venue. Some promoters will host weekly parties, others might be monthly, or you may need to get on their mailing lists or follow their socials to know what’s going down when.
Club-based sex parties might happen during the day or at night, and could range from being a club night that has a dark room through to a naked party, or just a full-on kind of event where everyone is there to fuck.
What is the Etiquette at a Gay Group Sex Party?
There’s no hard and fast rules about how to run a group sex encounter or how to behave when you’re at an orgy.
The main thing is to try and be respectful and make a positive contribution to ensuring that everyone is having a good time. Don’t be a boner-killer.
Consent still matters. Even if you’re at an orgy and everyone is naked, consent still matters. You don’t have to do anything that you don’t want to do. If you’re unsure if someone is giving you the green-light to get intimate, reign it in a bit until you’re sure that you’re both on the same page.
Don’t set your expectations too high for a sex party. It could be an amazing sexual experience, it might just be a bit of fun, or it might not turn out quite the way that you’d hoped. Go with the flow.
If you’re not having fun, it’s time to leave.
Plan an Orgy Yourself
If you’ve got a group of guys lined up for some fun, why not host?
Planning a house party for some group sex is pretty much like planning any sort of party.
Pick a date and then start firming up the guest-list. Ideally, you want to start with a core group that you can rely on to turn up and have fun. You can then expand your numbers through word-of-mouth and hitting up guys on hook-up apps.
It’s important to set some boundaries for yourself – how many guys will you be happy to have at your place? Will you be comfortable if guys turn up that you haven’t met before? Is there a specific time when you need the party to end?
Think about the logistics. You might need some snacks and drinks – make sure everyone stays hydrated. You’ll probably want plenty of lube and towels. Will people be fucking on the sofa? Maybe you should cover that with a sheet. People will also probably want to change – if they’re not stripping naked as soon as they walk in the door, they might want to change into some comfortable shorts – have you got somewhere to store clothes?
As the host, you’ve also got a bit of a duty of care towards your guests. Is everyone having a good time? Is anyone being disruptive? Is the lighting too bright? All good? Let’s fuck!
The After Dark edition
If you want to fuel your fap fantasies with some sexed-up images of what happens at a gay sex party, check out the After Dark edition.
